Summer Soak: Love does not Boast, It is not Proud

We hope you had a happy Fourth and are ready to gather your sisters for more soaking in His Word.

There’s been an extra week to look at boasting and pride, let’s see what there is to share in moving us closer toward love.

Stacy says:

I’ve spent the last two weeks taking note of my boasting. Trying to recognize when I boast and display pride. I’ve noticed little things, but for the most part, nothing stuck out. Nothing until my husband and I began discussing our boys.

“I’m not too happy about it,” I responded over a situation with my youngest.

“Don’t you remember being 15?” he asks.

“O.K. I’ll give you that one. But when I was 19 (like our middle child) I was working full time, going to college full time, and married!”

And there you have it. Boasting at its finest.

When I considered my statement later, I thought about the effects of boasting on a relationship. It may seem minor, but my words reflected the attitude I have about this situation.

Yes, it is true, when I was the age of my middle son I was a working, married, full-time college student. So what?

God used this boast to teach me comparison is another form of pride. Comparing what my children do today to what I did way back when doesn’t make for good parenting. In fact, it doesn’t build relationship at all.

I’ve heard it said, “Kids have it easy these days. When I was young I walked to school uphill both ways in the snow…”

Life doesn’t get easier for each generation… it gets different. Loving others, especially those younger than us, means recognizing their different is difficult for them and encouraging them to stay the course.

My pride and boasting left little room for empathy, compassion, and grace. Not a fun lesson but one I am truly thankful for in the moment.

Carol says:

The memory verse for the week captured my attention and got me thinking about the greater issues behind pride and boasting.

Thus says the Lord: “Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that they understand and know me, that I am the Lord who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the Lord.”

Jeremiah 9:22-24 (my emphasis)

God warns us not to boast in our blessings. And that’s what they are, gifts from God. All we have and are is from Him, and when we know He is behind it all we come before Him with humble thanks. We boast in our Lord.

The biggest danger in prideful boasting of self is the diminishing of God from the equation. When we focus on the gifts He’s given rather than Him, we begin to believe we are the source of our assets. We glorify ourselves with boasting and steal the glory He deserves with our praise and thanks. In the process we blind ourselves and become hardhearted to the truth.

For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.

Romans 1:21 NIV

It is unloving toward God not to recognize all we have is from Him and give Him the credit He is due.

We become unloving toward others when we no longer recognize we are all where we are because of Him. Whether rich or poor, strong or weak, healthy or sick. We lift ourselves up above others when we forget He is behind everything.

Humanism is the philosophy currently taking over our formerly Christian culture. A Google search led me to a couple of definitions of humanism.

…today humanism typically refers to a nontheistic life stance centered on human agency and looking to science rather than revelation from a supernatural source to understand the world.


humanism — an outlook or system of thought attaching prime importance to human rather than divine or supernatural matters


A humanistic worldview puffs up people in general. Excludes God from the equation and sees mankind as the source of everything.

A biblical Christian worldview humbles mankind. Reminding us we are broken sinners in need of a Savior. Everything we have comes from Him.

Prideful boasting is dangerous because it negates God. And when He is taken out of the picture. There is nothing good left.

To love God is to recognize Him as God, the giver of all good things, and respond with thanks for all His gifts. As we humbly come before Him, our love for others grows as well.

Remembering who He is and who you are before Him, is the cure to prideful boasting and prepares a heart to love.

One thought on “Summer Soak: Love does not Boast, It is not Proud

  1. Well, dagnabit, I forgot it was Tuesday and missed being there. Just wanted you to know that both view points are very well stated and expressed. But, really Stacy, did you have to hit me so hard? OUCH! Love you both, linda

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